This chapter explores the myth of balance and the many roles that leaders are pulled into: business owner, confidant, mentor, leader, manager, spouse, parent, child, sibling, friend etc… and it includes practices for: assessing when you are misaligned with your own values, learning to say no, and delegating things that aren’t the highest and best use of your time without guilt.

Practices in the Book:

Stop & Breathe (pg. 20)

Learning to Say No (pg. 24)

Delegate and Elevate™ -developed by Gino Wickman (pg. 27)

Calendaring (pg. 29)

Leaders Featured in the Book:

Becky Roloff, President of St. Catherine University (pg. 22)


“How to Make Stress Your Friend” -Kelly McGonigal (video)

“Why You Really Don’t Have a Time Management Problem” -Charlie Gilkey

“How and Why to Say ‘No’ When You Finally Reach Success” -Anthony Bourdain (video)

“Affirmations That Make Life Work” (photo)


“When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself.” -Paulo Coelho, best-selling author of The Alchemist

“There is no such thing as work-life balance. It is all life. The balance is within you.” -Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev, spiritual leader and yogi

“When your head says one thing and your whole life says another, your head always loses.” -Humphrey Bogart in the movie Key Largo.

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