Have you ever had a really challenging person in your life? Of course you have. We all have. The great news about being in their presence, especially if it’s with frequency, is that they are showing you exactly what NOT to do on a daily basis. Some may get exasperated, but if you come from a space of gratitude, they are the perfect role model for you.…
How are you leading? Many believe we need to be confident, positive, and directive as leaders, especially given the amount of change we continue to face in our world. It’s a good combination, until it’s not. Sometimes, you are uncertain too. It makes you human. Sometimes, you’re challenged and it’s hard. That doesn’t mean you’re not confident. In that moment, it means you’re human. Your vulnerability makes you accessible to each of us struggling with you. It…
Communication is more art than science. And when you dissect the nuances of how we all communicate, it’s no wonder there are rough intersections, touchy moments, and challenges between us. Here are four scenarios to consider: When a question is asked of a more analytical person, there is a noticeable and predictable silence that follows. Don’t fill it. Stop talking. Don’t re-ask the question another way. When you interrupt a results-oriented, GSD person…
Have you ever noticed that when you put off challenging conversations you suffer? One of the best principles I live my life by is to handle things promptly when they go wrong. Whether it’s family, work partners, teammates, employees, friends, or the service professionals you encounter in life, the rule of thumb is 24 hours. Whether it’s good news or corrective feedback, don’t wait. When you wait, your feedback has…
“Hard is not the end, it’s just hard.” This is a quote from a parent when his daughter was struggling in every way in her life. What a powerful statement. If you rely on feelings, hard is an end. It’s the end of an interpretation, the end of a way of being in the world that isn’t serving you, the end of working against the abundance…
Are you becoming the person you want to become? The narrative around becoming the best version of yourself is ample these days. How do you get about it? It’s not a series of tactics changing behavior temporarily that empowers this. You won’t read, listen, or watch the secrets to becoming whatever that is for you. Sure, you have to do some introspection and realignment based on your habitual, repeated behaviors. The…
Let go. Looking at what’s between today and tomorrow can make us feel like we have a deficit. We don’t – it’s perceived lack based on what’s possible and that’s a big thing. Looking at what’s between today and our past can make us feel like we’re winning. A healthy balance of both is necessary to keep the equilibrium for a healthy attitude. Sorting out our priorities is a necessity right now. Follow your gut. It’s time.
Worry doesn’t work. Even when the world doesn’t make sense, when you’d like to change everything about the circumstances and conditions surrounding you, and things feel out of control. Worry is a result of catastrophizing what could be but isn’t. It’s a result of your mind running rampant with all the possibilities for negative outcomes in the future. Could they happen? Sure. Will they happen? NO one knows. When you catch yourself caught…
“One day you will tell your story of how you’ve overcome what you’re going through now, and it will become part of someone else’s survival guide.” – Anonymous When you think of your life and legacy, do you realize you are being observed? As a leader, you must realize you are always being observed. Whether you’re aware of it at the moment or not,…
It’s hard to wait when you have a need. If you’re impatient like me, you don’t enjoy waiting anyway, and to be patient while doing so – especially when you have a need – is challenging. Set the bar high and let yourself embrace the journey. Excellence is worth it. The question becomes: What’s the price of settling? What’s it worth to wait and do it well once? Though it’s tempting, trust the process. It’s worth it every time.