Today I received an email that our dock and pontoon will be delivered in the next 2-3 weeks. I can’t tell you how happy that makes me. Our pontoon is where we relax, restore our energy, absorb Vitamin D and enjoy countless hours with family, friends and colleagues enjoying music, laughing and solving the world’s problems (which is a tall order right now). I am looking forward to that day more than I care to admit.
The pontoon was a Godsend during the summer of 2020 as it offered a way to socially distance, be outside, enjoy time with people and connect during a weird and challenging time in the world.
Kevin and I found out early in our relationship by means of a running joke between us that we always need something to look forward to. When we began dating, he found out I took each date as an opportunity to assess whether I’d like to see someone again or not. I kept it simple, I would return home and answer the question “did we enjoy ourselves enough to plan on one more date?”
My reasoning as an adult dating after a divorce was simple: I didn’t need to get married again, and that is a criterion I hear many people seeking early in their dating relationship. It often puts unnecessary pressure on the relationship – robbing you of being present each time you are together.
His response was (and continues to be today) “I’ve gotta make it to our next date.” We laugh and I respond with some version of “we shall see.” It is always lighthearted and has contributed to us making an effort when spending time together and prioritizing our relationship.
Keeping yourself motivated by having something to look forward to one event at a time keeps it real, and helps you remain present.
What are you looking forward to?