A goal is not enough. It’s important, but it won’t motivate you on a day when things are tough. How do you find your mojo if you really want to attain something, and your mood just isn’t supporting you? You can use external means: You can shift your internal dialog. Ask questions and document your answers to questions like these: Motivation is a tricky thing, it’s all internal and you’re the one to create it.…
Leaving things incomplete wastes energy. Think about it. When something is unfinished, you ruminate on it. Whether it’s a conversation, a puzzle, a task or a project, your mind and your actions wander back to it over and over. Your energy is trapped, as is your momentum. When you’re incomplete, you can’t move on. Not fully. Part of you and your energy remain stuck until you find some form of…
Are you a doer? Me too. The world loves a person who will bury themselves for accomplishment. We cosign the deal out of need, lack, and the vacancy in our wholeness (which doesn’t exist). Don’t bury yourself out of lack. Find another way to do only that which feeds your soul. The rest is for someone else.
Getting clear is important. In EOS, we call it “hitting the ceiling,” in other words, it’s reaching a plateau, getting stuck, being in a rut and reaching a platform to either rethink how you do things, stagnate, or quit. It sounds logical and simple. It feels like hitting that ceiling at top speed with little control of the vehicle you’re in while it’s happening in every direction. What…
“Your eyes only see and your ears only hear what you’re looking for.” I love this Dan Sullivan quote. It reminds me to stay humble (no matter how certain I am), by recognizing my own biases, filters, and predispositions to receive only the information I’m ready for at that moment. I may have heard something several times, yet I’m ready for it when I decide to be. It’s tremendously humbling…
Have you ever heard the phrase “what you focus on expands?” During a recent meeting, one of the leaders attending said they had been in a “funk.” Well, we all could relate to that statement. The conversation began and seemed to accelerate into all the things contributing to their challenges. It wasn’t helpful, in fact, it seemed to be more therapeutic for the other leaders to…
If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, thinking “I just can’t do it all,” I have a way to reframe that thinking. It’s become a muscle I’ve exercised enough to move through these moments and quit wasting time. Yes, overwhelm is a waste of time – I am the one who overcommitted, and I am the one who needs to be in action about changing the thinking and results associated…
Questions are a leader’s most powerful tool. When you lead well, you learn to ask more than tell. There’s a distinction between teaching and leading. For the team, they can become blurred when the leader blurs those lines. Teaching means showing, telling, correcting, learning, and generating. Leading is involved, but the outcome is clear: transition competencies and accountability. For many of us, especially parents, we don’t always…
When you pursue a dream, a future opportunity or a goal, all kinds of concern, worry, and fear can show up. After all, it wouldn’t be a future possibility if you already knew how to do it. Recently, while working with a group of CEOs, one of them declared something big. It was something career and life altering that wasn’t in the plans; it was an epiphany.…
I was working with a team recently and one member challenged me on single point accountability. She said she disagreed with the concept and their people “share” accountability for getting things done. While this is a great idea, it will always lead to the same outcome. When things are working, it’s a fine concept. What happens when things don’t work – when the stuff hits the fan and things don’t work? You know, the project is late,…