1600 blogs. Yep, you read that right. That’s a lot of thoughts, a lot of life, and a surprising amount of self-doubt. But more than that, it’s a lot of lessons—some hard, some humbling, and some that make me wonder how I ever survived without them. So, I thought it might be worth sharing 10 of the most important lessons…
How do you change a conversation – with a person or in your head – from a mood of victimized to accountable? A small word change may be the simplest form of shifting readily. The next time you feel something is happening to you, repeat your story and insert the word “for” every time you’d use the word “to.” When…
Is it really failure when things don’t work? Often, we look at the lack of the results we intended as a failure, when perhaps it’s something more. I am a learner; I often refer to myself as a lifelong learner. I value reading, learning organically and in workshops, from digital sources and books, and really any challenge to my thinking…
Worry doesn’t work… even when the world doesn’t make sense, when you’d like to change everything about the circumstances and conditions surrounding you, and things feel out of control. Worry is a result of catastrophizing what could be (but isn’t). It’s a result of your mind running rampant with all the possibilities for negative outcomes in the future. Could they…
When you look up, do you know what you want on the other side of any venture? I find when I ask what I’m seeking, what outcome I want, or what results I’m expecting, I could be more specific most of the time. In fact, I find that to be true for most people when they’re struggling with an issue,…
Intention and attention both contribute to attaining results, but one of them will offer more likelihood of success. When the lack of results is the result, people offer up stories, reasons, excuses, justifications, and explanations to justify the lack. They also share what their intention was when they offered their commitment. That’s where it all falls apart. Your energy goes…
What if we all lived each day the way we want to be remembered? What choices would you make differently? Who would you include? What would you do? Where would you go? How would you approach situations differently? What would you focus on and how would you approach each situation? Reminder: life isn’t a dress rehearsal.
I love working with leadership teams. When I realize the privilege I have to create a safe space for them to be vulnerable, open, and honest about their challenges as they lead others, it’s truly humbling. To lead often means you compartmentalize your insecurities to open a space for others to have confidence in an unprecedented future. You catalyze people’s…
Silence. It can be the most welcoming, enveloping, and peaceful experience when outside standing still with snow falling soundlessly on a winter’s night. Silence can be the space you need to create, imagine, and renew. Silence can be a mechanism to contain your feelings when angry, confused, overwhelmed, or to demonstrate to someone you are disconnecting. Silence can be a…
Teamwork. It’s so rare it’s like a superpower. With every team I coach, we define and deepen core values. Every team has one about teamwork. Every single one. Perhaps it’s because inherently we know that we can do what I can’t. Perhaps it’s because we know we are only as good as the people we surround ourselves with – you…