Have you ever noticed you can’t see things until you’re ready? They were always there; you just weren’t able to see them. It’s like when you buy a new car or get a new phone – you suddenly see them everywhere. Where there were none, suddenly they appear as if someone highlighted them on a blank piece of paper. What…
That conversation you’re having – it’s a distraction. What conversation? The one you’re having almost constantly with yourself. (And the one you heard when asked “what conversation?” above.) Sometimes it’s so loud you’re not present for the people, conversations, or life events as they’re happening. Beyond that, you’re getting limited input, you’re focused inward, and you’re missing opportunities. If you’re…
Curiosity will get you further than certainty most of the time. Am I suggesting you abandon all reason and those things you’re certain of? No. I am suggesting the only way we create connection, community, and possibility is through our relatedness. Shared knowledge, remember that we can do what I can’t, and the sum of the whole is greater than…
Worry doesn’t work. Even when the world doesn’t make sense, when you’d like to change everything about the circumstances and conditions surrounding you, and things feel out of control. Worry is a result of catastrophizing what could be but isn’t. It’s a result of your mind running rampant with all the possibilities for negative outcomes in the future. Could they…
There are three approaches to learning something new. You can use these in onboarding employees, with children, and with yourself as you approach new learning opportunities. Some people think their way to learning. They like to analyze, gather data, watch others, read about the topic, watch videos, talk with people, and once they are sure of their path, proceed forward…
What we tolerate, we endorse. When you complain about another person’s behavior (or your own) and it becomes a recurring message over time, pay attention. Clearly, it can’t be that bad or you’d do something about it. Have you: If you can’t change things or won’t leave the person, you must learn to live with things as they are and…
Planning. It’s not everyone’s priority or gift. Yet, it helps to create the best results most of the time. Notice I didn’t say a “plan?” When you get to wed to the plan, you will fail every time. Plans are rigid; they assume all the circumstances and factors influencing what will happen are known. That’s NEVER possible. Even when you’ve…
Don’t let yourself and your team go on autopilot. I was facilitating a session, and the leaders came in on the second day of their annual planning ready to go. What I mean is, two of them were simmering overnight – and came in disrupted and ready to challenge the rest of the leadership team. I loved it. They challenged…
The quote “live the way you want to be remembered” got my attention today. What if we all were on this page? How would my actions differ from what I’m currently doing? What would I focus on? What would it mean to those around me? What if I truly considered life as a tragedy? In the best sort of way,…
Are you a doer? Me too. The world loves a person who will bury themselves for accomplishment. We cosign the deal out of need, lack, and the vacancy in our wholeness (which doesn’t exist). Don’t bury yourself out of lack. Find another way to do only that which feeds your soul. The rest is for someone else.