Sometimes we forget the meaning and importance behind what we’re doing, and things erode from there. It can be as simple as preparing for a meeting. When I remind the leaders I work with about the facts – what it costs them to host a meeting with their leadership team for an hour or an offsite, the time they’re investing,…
Whenever I find myself triggered by an event, I know there’s learning available for me. If I bypass the opportunity to evaluate my reaction, I become a victim of whatever happened and can guarantee the next time a similar event occurs, I’ll react again – only it will be stronger and more automatic. If I’m aware enough and can sit…
Reframing your language is more than putting a “positive spin” on your language and thinking. It’s about redirecting energy. When you focus on something being difficult, bad, sad, or a problem, you’re essentially saying your circumstances are the way they are, will be, and you can’t do anything about it. This leads to being stuck. When you reframe the same…
Have you ever talked yourself out of something due to the thought of the work associated with doing it? Think of deadlines, new projects, behavioral changes or physical activity – working out. Your brain can rationalize away every benefit of beginning or doing the task before you begin. You will tell yourself a thousand stories about why you shouldn’t –…
What happens when you have something important, pressing, vital or interesting you are eager to share with someone and they don’t really pay attention? Even worse, what happens when they hear you, play along and seem to be with you, but they’re not? You know the drill, when someone is there, making eye contact, seemingly interested but when you reference…
Transitions. For most of us, they are challenging. Challenging in the best and worst sense of the word. Challenging us to become who we need to be, while letting go of who we currently know ourselves as. Challenging because in doing so, we must let go of the predictable and familiar, where comfort resides. Adventure and excitement live outside your…
Have you ever been stuck approaching a challenging conversation? You know the kind, it’s one you’d rather put off than have, could be personal or professional, but it’s one you play over and over in your head to rehearse before approaching it. Me too! What works? Here are 5 ways to make it easier:
Consistency. It’s elusive to many of us. When learning, it’s the deal maker. When seeking mastery, it separates those who excel from those who don’t. In any situation where you seek to deliver excellence, from cooking to performing, doing your work to playing sports, learning an instrument or a new language, art, leadership or any other venture – it requires…
Do you have goals big enough to focus your time, energy, attention, and choices? Without a compelling future state, we will make daily choices which slow our progress or lengthen the runway to get there. When you have a desired outcome in the future you’re committed to, it informs what you say yes and no to. Think of every long-term…
When things don’t work or go wrong, for many people, they blame. They look outside themselves (mentally or verbally) and reason their lack of results to someone or something outside themselves. This is an automatic reaction conditioned over years and practiced with others. This happens with my clients as they learn EOS®️ or practice new leadership behaviors. It doesn’t work.…