#15 – You Trained Them

by Sue Hawkes

#15 You Trained Them We complain all the time about how others behave. Our family, friends, employees, co-workers, those serving us, even other drivers. The list is endless really, it can extend to celebrities, politicians and other influencers. Those people we are often unable to directly influence, but we complain nonetheless. It’s interesting when you think of those people we…

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#14 – When Did We Forget?

by Sue Hawkes

#14 When Did We Forget? In several discussions in the past year, many people have disclosed their life seems to be happening to them, rather than their life occurring more by design. For most of these leaders, it’s a product of over-committing and adding all kinds of priorities without re-calibrating their lives. How often should we re-calibrate? As often as…

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#13 – Creatures of Habit

by Sue Hawkes

#13 – Creatures of Habit Most of us are creatures of habit. Beyond our twenties, we don’t make the time often enough to step back and assess how closely the life we’re living aligns with the life we imagine we should, would or could be living. Some questions to consider if you’re wondering: When is the last time you envisioned…

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#12 – Mistaking More for Better

by Sue Hawkes

#12 – Mistaking More for Better When working with leadership teams, I’m often a broken record saying “less is more” and “do less better.” In the beginning of our work together, teams rarely heed this advice. After all, they are entrepreneurial leadership teams with fearless ambition, can-do attitudes and they are ultimately opportunists at heart. Saying “no” is a challenging…

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#11 – The Mirror Is a Great Place to Start

by Sue Hawkes

#11 The Mirror is a Great Place to Start I was recently at a quarterly EOS conference with my fellow implementers. We always share “AHAs” to provide opportunities for learning with one another. We exchange wisdom for the learning available to each other and it’s always worthwhile. I shared how there are times when I notice patterns in my facilitation.…

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#10 – Urgency vs. Desperation

by Sue Hawkes

#10 Urgency vs. Desperation Urgency and desperation; they can appear so similar we confuse them when the stakes are high and timelines are short, yet they are very different. Perhaps they are cousins from the same family, one on the abundance side and one on the scarce side. Urgency breeds innovation, disruption and intentional immediacy. Desperation breeds pressure, neediness and…

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#9 – Choosing Your Ride

by Sue Hawkes

#9 Choosing Your Ride “I’m afraid of what might happen…” Really, do you like roller coasters? I’ve asked people this question for years when they talk about being afraid to do something. Some people love roller coasters and some people are scared of roller coasters and would rather do anything than ride on one; rarely are people ambivalent about riding…

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#8 – Patience

by Sue Hawkes

#8 Patience Patience is a virtue most people I know sincerely struggle with. It’s something results oriented, fast-paced, get it done, “I’m filling my calendar to the max” people find hard to conceive of. And yet it’s the place where a majority of the “good stuff” in life finds you. When you’re not pushing, hustling, efforting and “making it happen.”…

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#7 – Playing to WIN

by Sue Hawkes

#7 Playing to WIN In blog #3, Playing Not to Lose, I showed a diagram about how people “play” in the game of life. I explained that what’s most impactful about the model for me is that very few people ever play to “WIN.” Most of us “play not to lose.” It’s safer there. And I offered there’s only one…

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#6 – Reaction's Don't Lie

by Sue Hawkes

#6 – Reactions Don’t Lie Whenever I find myself triggered by an event, I know there’s learning available to me. If I bypass the opportunity to evaluate my reaction, I become a victim of whatever happened and can guarantee the next time a similar event occurs, I’ll react again – only it will be stronger and more automatic. If I’m…

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