When you’re grounded in your life and centered in a way that you have perspective, even amongst busyness, commitments, and challenges, they are just that – challenges. When you’re untethered in your life and you’re disrupted at a fundamental level, the smallest interruptions, curve balls, and challenges (like traffic) seem like insurmountable events. Gratitude, journaling, sleep, and exercise play a…
Control what you can and release the rest. One thing I know about myself, if things feel out of control, I organize, purge and clean. It works. It restores a sense of peace in my environment, and while I’m organizing, purging, and cleaning I also declutter my thoughts. I empty some demons lurking between my ears. It works. In the grand…
Incompletions waste energy. Think about it. When something is unfinished, you ruminate on it. Whether it’s a conversation, a puzzle, a task, or a project, your mind and your actions wander back to it over and over. Your energy is trapped as is your momentum. When you’re incomplete, you can’t move on. Not fully. Part of you and your energy…
Distractions. The world is filled with them. Whether it’s your social media, ads on your favorite shows, in your feed, or the person who interrupts you at work – or several of them, your day is filled with interruptions. How do you learn to focus amidst the chaos coming at you from all angles? For me, having time off from…
Practicing is a lost art. In a world of instant gratification, many have forgotten the value of practicing. Being a beginner, feeling frustration with what seems like a vast divide between where you are and where you want to be. The benefit of doing the work without immediate gratification, trusting the process, and believing in the void of evidence that…
Have you ever had a really challenging person in your life? Of course you have. We all have. The great news about being in their presence, especially if it’s with frequency, is that they are showing you exactly what NOT to do on a daily basis. Some may get exasperated, but if you come from a space of gratitude, they…
In a recent session, one of my clients shared an insightful quote about conflict: “We debate to learn, we don’t debate to win.” This is a simple phrase which keeps the outcome clear. It’s about debating ideas, opportunities, the search for the right answer or the pursuit of truth – all of which produce healthy conflict. This kind of conflict…
When things change it opens up space. Space in your mind, your environment, your beliefs, and your possibilities. You can focus on what you’re losing, what’s going away, how “hard” it will be or what you don’t like about the changes. You can also focus on what you’re gaining, what’s emerging, how “fun” it will be to learn and grow,…
When you have a challenging message to deliver, a sensitive conversation to have, a crucial conversation waiting to happen, it’s better to ask yourself how much trust you have in the relationship than plan the right words to say. If trust is high, you can use the wrong words, muck up the details, and basically enter into it unprepared because…
What if you treated every conversation as if it were the last opportunity you had? How would you relate differently to them? How would you listen? What difference would it make in your relationships? As I worked with a team recently about communication, I was reminded of how challenging it is to balance the demands of the day with the…