The greatest opportunity during communication is for miscommunication. Read that again. I know I needed to. Somehow, in my day to day, I forget regularly that it’s up to me (as the speaker) to ensure any person (whether an audience, a family member, a client or friend) understands what I mean. I frequently refer to this reference from NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming): “the meaning…
I’ve had a hard time saying “no” much of my life. Heck, my company is named YESS!, so I clearly have issues, right? What I’ve noticed repeatedly with the most successful people around me is they do three things consistently well: They say no more often. In other words, they are laser focused on what needs to be true of any opportunity for it to be the right one them. …
It’s all about the reps. I was in a group meeting and one of the participants had detailed data behind how he had generated $250,000 this quarter. Everyone’s ears perked up. We all enjoy being seduced by great results. When he said “wait, I’ll tell you exactly how I did that…” we all leaned in, thinking we’d hear the “secret” recipe to significant…
We all have competing priorities happen. How do you decide what comes first when everything seems important? Here is some criteria to help clarify, but remember, the best answer is to prepare, plan and bust up your own procrastination. Most of us believe there’s always more time. There is not. Ask these 5 questions in any order when your priorities are on a collision course: Are…
Mindset is everything. Tonight I had to work quite a bit of mental gymnastics to get myself out on the paddleboard. It was 84 degrees, low humidity, low wind, no bugs, and very few boats on a lake that looked like glass. I couldn’t have scripted more perfect conditions. Other than the time of day. It was 7:45pm when I got my sorry…
Sometimes, when you show up and are fully present, what you’re looking for is where you are. I was recently in an online workshop to be on a panel. I had no expectation of learning, receiving any benefit or solving any issues for myself. I was there to contribute – 100%. I prepared and had every intention of contributing as much as I…
Do you push yourself? Most of us don’t. I know I don’t. At least not in the domains that are challenging for me. This is why my clients who have graduated from EOS continue to have me facilitate sessions. Or they do a tune up once a year to ensure they don’t veer to far from the work we’ve done and the investment we’ve made. …
I’m in the midst of creating a one-year program. It’s challenging in the best way. I’m excited to have the rough draft completed in the next 60 days or so. As I ideate, read and sort, I’m including everything I can think of. And then I’ll eliminate. Living life by design takes intention. Most of us won’t make the time. We make more time to plan dinner, our weekends or our vacations…
Change is challenging. It’s an undoing. For me, I seem to do mass amounts of change at once, a little at a time doesn’t register my attention. And I learn. My greatest lessons come from pain and growth is the outcome. Really, life is an undoing unless you hang on. Letting things do and undo is always occurring. When it’s not, it’s usually because we’re hanging…
Communication is more art than science. And when you dissect the nuances of how we all communicate, it’s no wonder there are rough intersections, touchy moments and challenges between us. Here are four scenarios to consider: When a question is asked of a more analytical person, there is a noticeable and predictable silence that follows. Don’t fill it. Stop talking. Don’t re-ask the question another way. When…